When you meet someone new, do you act differently? The chances are, you do. You have no idea how that person is going to react to anything you say, do or act. We tend not to use verbal contractions (we will instead of we’ll; I am instead of I’m; You have instead of you’ve). We ted to avoid eye contact, we do a great many things to be what we are not so as to hide who we really are, and thus protect ourselves. How do we know when it is appropriate to go back to who we really are, and how will the people view us when they see the real person then?
Personally, I think we should be ourselves as soon as possible. Keeping a facade going will cause other people to take that as a given that it is us, and when weย do go back to the real us, we may lose them as friends. Who is to say that these new friends wouldn’t like us if we started off being the real us.
I remember in the early 1990s, I was much more confident then, and I went to take-away to by some food. I was with a friend then, and he introduced me to his friend, but he used her nickname.
Him: Hey Al, this is my friend “Squiffy”
Me: (to Squiffy) What? Did your mother not like you?
It was the real me straight away. Or the me I allowed people to see. It was a time when the real me was suppressed, When I finally let out the real me many years later, my friends weren’t so keen on that person. So always be you from as early stage. Let people see you and you may well be surprised at how much they like you.
Thanks today go to:
Being quirky is all about being one’s authentic self and I try to always be that. One lady in the lift at work said how humble I am and just naturally me. I felt blessed when she said that.
She was right, you are a unique person Sandra
Thanks Al. Blessings to you my friend.
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This is another amazing blog post Al, well done you!
Thank you Sandra, I appreciate that
You are awesome just as you are.
Haha. Not really. Just me
That’s the point.
Getting a mega dose of inspiration as I visit your WP home today ๐
I hope your week has been a good one. You’ve been missed this week.
Awww…Thanks Alastair.
Not too bad. – just busy. Had some rough patches – but – that happens. All is well though.
Hope all is well with you & your fam.
{Hugs}
My family is a complete Jerry Springer show haha
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Hmmm…wonder if we’re related. ๐
My daughter went to her mum’s yesterday. Two hours later she phoned me in tears asking if I could phone her a taxi as she wanted to come home
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Thank God she has you. ๐
I am as well ๐
I always try to be authentic. It is a difficult path sometimes. Of course you are right…if you give the wrong impression the first time someone meets you, then they always think that is the way you are. Better to let them see the real you right up front, then if they like/dislike you, you always know where you stand….. ๐
Years ago, I was with a friend when he introduced me to another friend. Just before he did, he told me to be careful of him. He turned out to be one of my greatest friends and we had so many good times
But I am taken with myself… HA!
Haha that made me laugh
I outdid myself.
I think you did outdid yourdid
I done did, sho nuff
I tend to be very shy around new people, worried about what they are thinking of me, giving off a vibe I am weird when actually I am pretty chatty
I tend to try and avoid being around new people now ๐
Sometimes very true
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Inspiring quotes, Al. ๐
I’m glad you liked them ๐
I never heard the one about the “sinking sun” before…. I like it!
I like that one as well. It’s true ๐
Always inspiring Al!
Thanks Kathryn